Constantly criticized, nit-picked, undermined, sidelined, ignored, humiliated, passed over? Read this
There is life after bullying but it can take years to restore stability in your life. Ideas on recovery from bullying are on a separate page.
The trauma caused by a bully experience can be so great as to preclude working again. However, most people eventually feel able to attempt some kind of work, and everyone needs to earn income to pay the mortgage.
How do you avoid working for a bullying employer? Here are some questions to ask at the interview:
Determining these facts and figures will also help you gauge the prospective working climate:
It's likely your prospective employer will want to contact your last employer for a reference, at which point the bully will badmouth you. If you suspect this is happening (your prospective employer goes from making welcoming noises to suddenly shunning you) contact us for advice on how to deal with a bad reference.
You may decide not to use any referees from your former employer. Perhaps you could use referees from other previous places of employment?
For a phased return to the world of work you might consider doing one or two days voluntary work a week. Beware that charities and not-for-profit organisations also attract bullies so be on your guard. However, in a supportive environment your confidence will grow, your health will improve, and you'll have someone to give you a good reference.
Many people decide not to be employed but to become self-employed. The advantages are 100% control over your work and who you work with, but the main disadvantage is that self-employment can be financially precarious. It's also hard, hard work - but you are the sole beneficiary of your labours.
Lots of information and ideas for tackling bullying including the legal aspects
Action Home Page | Action to tackle bullying
Guidance for employers on policy development
Bullying and the trade unions | Bullying and the law
Case law on bullying, harassment, stress and personal injury
Court judgements in cases relevant to bullying
Long v. Mercury Mobile Communications Services
Hatton Barber et al: 16 practical propositions for a personal injury case
Right to be accompanied | The need for risk assessment
High Court injunction to prevent unfair dismissal | Obstruction to justice
Bullyonline action forum for validation and re-empowerment
UK Dignity at Work Bill | Swedish law on Victimization at Work
Bullying and human rights | Waters v. London Metropolitan Police
Barber v. Somerset County Council
Zimmerman: retaliation in the US courts
Bullying history: books, articles and publications since 1992
How to lobby your MP: example letter and summary of inadequacy of UK law
Amicus Campaign Against Bullying At Work (CABAW)
Tim Field's written submission to the Dignity at Work Bill debate
Getting another job after bullying | How to recover from bullying
Setting up a bullying survivor support group | Sample support group constitution
Using the search engines to find other sites on bullying etc
Dealing with viruses, worms, spam etc
Designing and building your own web site
Advice and guidance for new Internet users
Tim Field's book Bully in sight validates the experience of bullying and
defines the injury to health caused by bullying and harassment
The Field Foundation | Bully OnLine
Workplace bullying | School bullying | Family bullying
Bullying news | Press and media centre
Bullying case histories | Bullying resources
Stress and PTSD
Action to tackle bullying | Related issues
Books on bullying and psychiatric injury